Four Goals That Will Maximize Your Parenting
Be Practical
Children need to know exactly what you expect of them.
How do you want your kids to respond when they're disappointed, corrected,
or given an instruction? Instead of saying, "Stop having a bad attitude!"
tell your children how to have a good one. Children need practical ideas for
handling temptation, dealing with annoying behaviors, and obeying. Parents
are the primary source for teaching children to handle life.
Focus on the Heart
It's much easier to focus on behavior than it is to
change the heart, but the heart is the source of lasting growth. You can't
force a change of heart but you can influence children to make heart-level
adjustments. Ultimately, God is the one who changes hearts. That means
prayer becomes a primary tool for any parent. And then, as you choose
discipline strategies, look for ways to influence the heart.
Be Biblical
God has given the scriptures to us filled with wisdom
that applies to family life. Don't just limit yourself to the passages that
talk about roles and relationships in the family. Look at the entire Bible
for practical solutions to relational issues and then apply them to your
situation. The Bible talks about handling injustice, overcoming selfishness,
appealing to authority when you disagree, obeying when you don't feel like
it, and the consequences of foolishness. God's Word has strategies and
answers for the issues that families face.
Look for Adult Solutions to Children's Problems
You are training your children for the future. The
things your kids learn now about obedience, honor, sacrifice, working hard,
and handling anger will carry them into adulthood. Many of the problems
children face are similar to those that adults are challenged with. Look for
adult solutions and then break them down to a child's developmental stage.
Then children can grow into adult solutions instead of growing out of
childish ones.
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